It’s always been an Islamic value as well as a Prophetic teaching to manage oneself and control one’s behavior as well as emotions.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) told his companions that the really strong and powerful person is the one who controls him/herself in the situation of anger and ultimate rage.
Thus, to manage yourself, you should start by controlling your emotions and uncurbed whims. You have to put them in an Islamic con. in order to express them through the right channel.
Strategies to control yourself when angry:
take a deep breath when faced by stressful events.
change your position –if standing up, sit down and vice versa- as Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) recommended.
don’t build up on the current situation and don’t talk to yourself imagining the other party’s response: talk to the other party after you both get calm.
try to remember the good point of the other party and make excuses for them, after all; you don’t know what they going through.
think positively; try to get the bright side of the situation, don’t wish for others’ mistakes.
if possible, perform ablution “Wudu” as it puts out anger as water puts out fire –as Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said and science proves. Using water and massaging the body in Wudu discharges anger in the form of mechanical power and causes great relief of physical and psychological pain.
How self management turns to be an art and a source of power for Me?
Well, you should know the following points before knowing what self management is all about:
Emotions and thoughts about yourself translates into strong beliefs about your self image.
Beliefs of self image form attitudes about yourself.
Attitudes formulate your character.
Character determines your behavior in life situations.
Behavior affects your destiny.
Thus, your emotions become your destiny!
Isn’t it important to control your emotions???
How do I control my emotions? And myself?
The first step to control is to be AWARE. Thus awareness is the essence of power. You should be careful about your thoughts, because what you think is what you achieve. If you aim high and think if yourself high, you WILL BE.
Thoughts are some form of power –electromagnetic power- in the form of signals the brain omits. These thoughts when backed with true belief translate into attitudes and becomes the real you.
So, when someone says “I can’t do it”, s/he actually “doesn’t want to do it”. Because every body can do any thing –only if s/he wants it really hard and works for it diligently- after all, God gives every one what s/he wishes for whether in Life and/or the Hereafter. God says in the Qur’an: and however wants Life, We give (from) it to him, and whoever wants the Hereafter, We give (from) it to him.
Thus, to manage yourself; be careful for what you think if yourself, because it’s what you will eventually become. Be careful for what you wish for; as it’s what you will eventually get
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المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة همسة حنين [عزيزي الزائر يتوجب عليك التسجيل للمشاهدة الرابطللتسجيل اضغط هنا]
think positively; try to get the bright side of the situation, don’t wish for others’ mistakes
you know what..
that point is really important cause allot of people these
days just like to focus on the dark side of the situations..
اقتباس:
المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة همسة حنين [عزيزي الزائر يتوجب عليك التسجيل للمشاهدة الرابطللتسجيل اضغط هنا]
try to remember the good point of the other party and make excuses for them, after all; you don’t know what they going through.
Ya I always try to do that..
Specially the people who are close to me..
Cause I also want the same thing from the others ..
And by doing that you could be sure to have a good life..
And that your heart would always be pure..
Thanks alot هموسةfor the great topic..
نور القســم بجيتك حبيبتي..
ننتظر جديـدك ^_^
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.. Self Management -The Art and the Power
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